My husband and I recently went on vacation to Mexico. However, my husband refused to take photos of me or with me. When I asked him why, he said he wasn’t in the mood…

Hi everyone, it’s Hannah here. It’s a difficult story to share, but I feel I need to. I’m a 38-year-old mother of two wonderful children (seven and five) and have been married to my husband Luke for nearly a decade. We’ve had our challenges, like any couple. But something that happened on our recent trip to Mexico shocked me more than anything else we’ve been through.

A mother with her little daughter and son | Source: Midjourney

Picture this: We’re in Mexico, surrounded by beautiful beaches and gorgeous weather. I was so excited about this trip. I had planned everything meticulously because let’s face it, as a mom I rarely get a break.

This was supposed to be our time to reconnect, relax, and just enjoy each other’s company. But from the start, Luke was acting strange. Every time I asked him to take a photo of me or with me, he just brushed it off.

“I don’t feel like it,” he would say, or “Can we do it later?” I didn’t think much of it at first. Maybe he was just tired from the trip, right? But then it kept happening.

We were on this beautiful beach, and I was wearing this new dress I bought especially for the trip. I felt good, which is rare these days after two kids and everything. I asked Luke, “Can you take a photo of me with the sunset?”

He sighed and mumbled, “Not now, Hannah.”

I frowned, feeling a little hurt. “Why not? It’ll only take a moment.”

“I said I’m not in the mood,” he snapped, turning around.

That hurt. I mean, we’re on vacation, and he can’t take a moment to take a photo? I felt embarrassed and confused.

Throughout the trip, I noticed he was extra protective of his phone. He hid the screen whenever I walked by and even took it into the bathroom with him. My gut told me something was wrong, but I tried to ignore it.

One afternoon, while Luke was in the shower, his phone was on the bed. My heart pounded as I picked it up. I know it’s wrong to invade other people’s privacy, but I had to know. I quickly unlocked his phone and opened his recent messages.

There it was, a group message with his friends. And what I read made my blood run cold. He had written, “Imagine, at her weight, she still wants me to take pictures of her! Where would she even fit in the photo? She hasn’t been the same since birth.”

Tears welled up in my eyes and I felt like I couldn’t breathe. This was the man I loved, the father of my children, saying such cruel things behind my back. I thought we were partners, that he loved me for who I am, but here he was, making fun of me.

A white couple on a vacation in Mexico | Source: Midjourney

I put his phone back and sat there in shock. How could he? I felt devastated and betrayed. Our marriage was far from perfect, but I never imagined he thought so little of me. I cried quietly, without the kids hearing.

After a while, my tears dried, and I felt something else: anger. I wasn’t going to let him get away with it. I had to do something to show him that his words had consequences. That’s when an idea struck me.

I pulled out my phone and browsed through the photos I’d taken during the trip itself. I chose the best ones and posted them on Facebook with the caption: “Looking for a new vacation companion. Am I really so unattractive that even my husband doesn’t want to take photos of me?”

Almost immediately, the post started garnering likes and comments. My friends and even some acquaintances chimed in with supportive messages. They praised my photos, called me beautiful, and expressed their amazement at Luke’s behavior. I didn’t mention the details of what he’d said, but the message was clear.

When Luke got out of the shower, he noticed my mood had changed. “Are you OK?” he asked, probably sensing the tension.

“Great,” I replied without looking up from my phone. I was still angry and hurt and couldn’t look him in the eye.

The next day, I was still in shock from Luke’s betrayal. I couldn’t shake the things he’d said about me. But then something happened that added another layer to this already complicated situation.

Just before our trip, I had received the news that my uncle, whom I had never met, had died and left me a sizable inheritance.

I had planned to share this news with Luke during our vacation, hoping it would be a happy surprise. But after discovering what he really thought of me, I decided to keep it to myself.

That morning, word somehow got to Luke through his mother, who had learned of the inheritance. I was packing up our things, ready to abandon the trip, when Luke came in with a bouquet of flowers.

He had that embarrassed look on his face that I had seen a few times before when he knew he had screwed up.

“Hannah, I’m sorry for everything,” he began, holding out the flowers. I took them without a word, waiting to hear what he would say next.

He continued, “I know I was an idiot. I shouldn’t have said those things. But honey, with your new money you can hire a trainer and lose weight.”

I couldn’t believe my ears. Did he really think an apology would be enough, followed by a suggestion that I use my inheritance to change for him? I was overcome with anger and replied, “Maybe I will, Luke. But not so you can stare at me.”

The look on his face was priceless. He had expected me to just forgive him and move on. But I was done. I had reached my breaking point. “Luke, I’m divorcing you,” I said, my voice firm despite the turmoil inside me.

His eyes widened, and for a moment he was speechless. Then, to my surprise, he started to cry. “Please, Hannah, don’t leave me,” he pleaded. “I already told my friends I wanted to buy a new SUV to go off-roading with them, and now, without your money, all my plans are ruined.”

I was stunned. It hit me how little he valued me. It wasn’t about our relationship or our family; it was about what my money could do for him. I looked at him with pity and determination.

“It seems like you love my money more than me. You can find another way to buy your SUV, but not with my money or by demeaning me. Goodbye, Luke.”

I then walked away from him feeling a strange sense of relief coupled with sadness. This wasn’t how I had imagined my life would be, but it was time to take control of my happiness.

I spent the rest of the day organizing the return home and the beginning of the divorce process. Support from friends and family continued to pour in. Every comment and message helped me regain my confidence and belief in my own worth.

I realized that I didn’t need someone like Luke to validate my beauty or worth. I was enough just the way I am. I decided to move on with my life and focus on my kids and myself.

In the days that followed, I started working out, not because Luke suggested it, but because I wanted to feel healthier and stronger. I picked up new hobbies, spent more time with friends, and even thought about going back to school.

One day at the mall, I ran into Luke. He startled me with a half-compliment. “Hey! I almost didn’t recognize you, Hannah. You look different. How are you and the kids?”

“We’re fine,” I replied, not continuing the conversation.

“Hannah, I’ve always wanted to ask you if…”

 

“I’m in a hurry, Luke. I have to be somewhere else. Sorry,” I said before leaving. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw confusion and pain paint his otherwise calm and confident face.

But I didn’t care anymore because I was now free to become the best version of myself.

That was my story and I hope that if you are ever in a similar situation, you find the courage to stand up for yourself. You are more beautiful than you think and you deserve someone who loves you for who you are. Believe in yourself even when others don’t.

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